“I give up. I can’t do this. It’s too hard. I’m not strong enough for the job. It’s beyond my capacity. I need help.” This was how I felt about the lady finger palms growing behind our screened in patio. They had to go. They were causing big problems. But they’re roots were too strong and too deep for me to manage on my own. I did my best. I tried hard, so did my husband, but we couldn’t do it.
The harder we tried, the more aggravated and frustrated we became. Ugh.
To be honest, there have been times I’ve felt this way about my daughter. You may have, too. Maybe today you’ve almost reached your give-up point.
It feels terrible to come to that place about your own son or daughter. But sometimes it’s hard not to despair. You fill in the blank with your child’s issue(s)____________. The list might be long. No one wants to quit on their own flesh and blood.
Why shouldn’t we give up? These are the 4 reasons my husband and I chose not to:
1. Because God is a big God – bigger and greater than their problems.
2. Because God understands and cares – about you and them, because he loves us.
3. Because God is a miracle-working God – it’s never too late for your child. Things can change. They can recover, stop their destructive behaviors, get help and find their way back to wholeness, to a healthy relationship with you and the family, and most of all, with Him. It was a long slow process (over 10 years) but I’m seeing this happen with my daughter.
4. Because you never know what tomorrow could bring. God wants us to keep trusting Him – even though things may be bad. He’s still there and He can bring good out of it all.
As you bring your child to Him, I can’t promise a certain outcome, but I can promise He’ll help you.
A dear friend once told me, “As long as they’re still breathing, there’s still hope.”
I never forgot it. I hope you won’t, either.
This Scripture always strengthens me:
“May the Lord answer you when you are in distress; may the name of the God of Jacob protect you. May he send you help. . . and grant you support . . may he give you the desire of your heart and make all your plans succeed . . . may the Lord grant all your requests . . . Some trust in horses, but we trust in the name of the Lord our God . . we rise up and stand firm.” (Psalm 20:1-5, 7)
When we feel like giving up, Lord, help us remember and keep trusting. Amen.