Sometimes Parents Need a Christmas Miracle

When Things Look Like an Impossible Mess

“… Into the middle of impossible messes — comes the Messiah who makes the miracles possible.”  (Ann Voskamp)Renee butterfly1

Does your child’s life look like an impossible mess this Christmas season?

Are they so trapped in addictive behaviors and destructive relationships that it looks like there’s no way out?

Are drugs and alcohol, self-injury, an eating disorder, mental illness, jail sentences, a same-sex relationship or pornography holding them in bondage?

If all you see is impossibilities –  in their lives and in yours – then you need a miracle.

Maybe the Miracle is in You?

Jesus, the promised Messiah, comes to us in the middle of our broken, dirty world. He comes, no matter how messed up our lives are. We don’t scare Him away. And with Him, anything is possible  – even that miracle you’ve been praying for and have almost given up on.

Our wayward children need forgiveness, too. They know how much they’ve hurt us. They berate themselves for it more than we know. For some, that mountain is too high to climb. God invites them to bathe in his pool of mercy and grace. Where His grace is missed, “bitterness is born. But where the grace of God is embraced, forgiveness flourishes.” (Max Lucado)

But have you ever thought that maybe, just maybe, the miracle is what God is doing in you, mom or dad? (Not that He can’t or won’t do one for your child.) If He can take an ugly caterpillar, trapped in a cocoon, and bring it out as a breathtakingly beautiful butterfly, then He can do the impossible in a person’s life.

My daughter loves butterflies. One year, for a special birthday outing, she went to an indoor butterfly garden. While there, this gorgeous morphos butterfly landed on her (that’s her in the photo), opened its wings, and stayed there! Astonished, the staff told her this was very rare. When she sent me the photo I cried tears of joy. The butterfly symbolized how much God had done in her life, bringing her out of a mess, giving her a new life. Morphos means change and she was a living example of that.

Today your child might be stuck in a dark place in serious need of major changes; in a big mess they can’t pry themselves out of – maybe you are, too – but think of the possibilities. For God, they’re limitless!

Prayer: O Father, please do a miracle! Give me strength where there is weakness; hope where there is despair; joy where there is only sadness; and a new life where there has been death. Revive my faith that with You, I can rise above the mess. Jesus, You took on my frail, human form and entered into my soul-impoverished cocoon. You know how hopeless I feel in there, yet You can make something new out of my life. You can make miracles happen – they ARE possible – in me and in my child. In Your mighty name. Amen.

We’re waiting, Lord. We desperately need a miracle today. I’m reminded of the words of an old Christmas hymn I always liked, “O come, O come, Emmanuel, and ransom captive Israel…”

And these Bible verses give me hope:

“Praise be to the Lord, the God of Israel, because he has come and has redeemed his people . . . (He has come) to shine on those living in darkness and in the shadow of death, to guide our feet into the path of peace” (Luke 1:68, 79, NIV).




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2 thoughts on “Sometimes Parents Need a Christmas Miracle

  1. Thank you for this reminder! I like the name of your website. I am a hurting mom. My first Christmas knowing my adult daughter is in a same sex relation ship….being a counselor to women myself it is true that there is safety in many counselors. So now I admit that hope and safety is needed. Miracles are needed!

    • Debbie, we’re so glad you like the name of our website! We prayed and asked God for direction when we chose it. May he bless and comfort you this first Christmas season as you hold this knowledge about your daughter in your heart. We know it’s a hurting, sad heart, but he understands. May you find the help and support you need from those God puts in your path – and may you get the miracle you’re praying for, in God’s perfect timing.

      “We can’t escape pain; we can’t escape the essential nature of our lives. But we do have a choice. We can give in and relent, or we can fight, persevere, and create a life worth living, a noble life. Pain is a fact; our evaluation of it (and response to it) is a choice.” – Jacob Held

      “I trust in God’s unfailing love forever and ever … in your name I will hope for your name is good…” (Ps. 52:8-9). Amen/

      Warmly in Christ,