Are you a mom or dad who feels like you’re going crazy? Our child’s destructive behaviors and unwise choices can bring us to the place of thinking we’re losing our mind. It’s pure insanity.
Over and over again I’ve made attempts to control and fix and change my daughter, only to get the same results. I’ve had a revelation.
I can’t do it. I can’t change her. It was wasted effort. Useless.
Living with the pain and stress of a loved one’s alcohol or drug abuse, self-harm, mental illness, same-sex issues, pornography use, gambling, or suicidal tendencies can make you a little nutty. No matter how hard you try, you get the same results.
With good intentions we often try to control people, places and things, believing our way is the right way. Unsuccessful, we’re slow to recognize reality. We keep trying. It’s an insane way to live.
In the 12 Step recovery program, Step 3 says: “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God . . .”
We need to come to the place where we’re ready to relinquish our desire for control and let our children – any age – learn from their mistakes. When we do this we’ll have a more peaceful life. Sounds good to me.
I have to let go of what I want and of the idea that I have any power to change another person. I can only change myself – and I don’t even do that very well.
Recovery programs say this is “choosing between an insane life and a sane one”. My will – trying to make something happen – or God’s will – giving it to Him and trusting Him with the outcome.
How long will we continue running around in the same circles before we’re willing to admit defeat and turn to a Source of real help? Let’s stop doing the same things over and over again. This will only make us dizzy and sick.
I don’t know about you, but I want to exchange my insanity for the sanity God can give. He’s my source of help. I can make this exchange when I let go of my will and give my child over to His care.
This Scripture verse gives me hope that with God’s help, I can get off the insanity merry-go-round:
“See I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up, do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland.” (Isaiah 43:19)