Because September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month I’m doing a series on the subject. I will be posting more frequently for this month. This is for parents whose sons or daughters struggle with thoughts and fantasies of ending their lives – or anyone who cares about someone who struggles. They may be living with mental health issues, an addiction or an overall feeling of hopelessness. Your child is miserable and you’re tormented by not knowing if they’re safe – from themselves.
You have an uneasy feeling something is wrong but can’t put your finger on it. You worry they feel worthless and believe their life has no meaning; that they don’t matter.
The information here could be crucial for your child.
My source is The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website.
The following behaviors may mean someone is in danger of ending their life. The risk is greater if a behavior is new, has increased or is related to a painful event, a loss or significant change.
These are the warning signs to watch for. If your child exhibits any of them, seek help as soon as possible. Call the Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). A trained individual will take your call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, including holidays. And NAMI (nami.org) is another great resource for information and support.
- Talking about wanting to die or kill themselves. Pay attention. Don’t ignore those comments. You never know when it’s a genuine plea for help.
- Looking for a way to kill themselves: searching online, hiding pills, obtaining a weapon or the key to your gun case (if you have guns in your home always keep them in a locked place).
- Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.
- Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain.
- Talking about being a burden to others. Repeatedly apologizing.
- Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs. (parents may only see hints of this)
- Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly.
- Sleeping too little or too much.
- Withdrawing or isolating.
- Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge.
- Displaying extreme mood swings.
– A sudden, unexplained change in typical behavior.
– Undecorating their bedroom; taking down favorite posters or pictures for no apparent reason.
– Giving away personal belongings, especially if it’s something you know is special or important to them.
– Being more loving to friends or family members than usual; out of character for them. A little too nice to a sibling they always fight with.
If you have nagging doubts, call a counselor immediately. If you don’t know who to call, then call the toll-free number listed above. At least you can talk with someone who’s knowledgeable on the subject. They will help you determine your next steps.
Please don’t delay. You don’t want to have any regrets. What’s the worst thing that could happen? You find out were wrong and they’ll be angry, but it’s not the first time and it won’t be the last.
Dear parent, when you see these symptoms, it calls for courageous love. It means you must be willing to risk being the enemy – for now.
Are you willing?
One day your child may understand – they might even forgive you and thank you. But if not, you can be strong. You can take it, because your love for them is big enough. Therefore, you can be courageous. You can do whatever is necessary to try and save your child.
Sadly, when a suicide occurs, family members and closest friends often say they were completely blind-sided; they never saw it coming. I hope that doesn’t happen to you.
Now that you know these things, you can be proactive and have no regrets.
“Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track. Don’t assume that you know it all. Run to God (Proverbs 3:5-6, The Message)!”
Author of Life,
Comfort and strengthen us. Reinforce our courage to do hard things, whatever it takes, to save our child. Open our eyes to see the warning signs. Guide us to the next step. Divinely connect us with the right person who can speak to our situation. Show us how to trust You in this great struggle. Thank you for caring. Thank you that we’re not alone.
Which one of these warning signs were you not aware of? Save the toll free Suicide Prevention Lifeline number and keep it in a safe place. Put it in your phone just in case. Share it with others.