Love never fails

Sometimes we don’t like the person our child has become when they have been rude, disrespectful and even downright hateful towards us.  Suddenly we are the bad guy, the enemy.  Alcohol and drugs change them.  Depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, anxiety disorders and other mental illnesses change them.  Time in jail or prison changes them.  Trauma changes them.  So much they have experienced changes them.   Before we know it they are no longer the person we once knew.  The sweet, innocent, son or daughter we  raised and have so many special memories of  . . . where did they go?  What happened?  It is so baffling and mystifying.   It hurts so badly.   But they are still our sons, our daughters.  Underneath it all is a frightened, lost soul.  Our precious child is still there, somewhere.

What can make a difference in their lives?  God’s unfailing love.  We sure don’t deserve it, yet His love for us never fails, no matter what we’ve done.   Think about that.  It’s unfailing.  It can’t fail!  It can’t wear out, give out or fizzle out.  It’s impossible – absolutely not possible – “no way, no how!” –  for it to stop or come to an end . . . ever!  It will never cease to exist.   The Bible tells us that nothing can separate us from God’s love.   NOT A THING.

I found it so comforting to think of how much God loved my daughter, no matter what she did or what was done to her.  Somehow it gave me hope that if he loved her that much, then one day she just might be ok.  I could put her in his hands and entrust her into his care because of this unfailing love.  I could depend on it.  It was a sure thing.  It didn’t guarantee she would be ok, but I could trust that out of His love for her He would do whatever it would take to reach her with that endless, immutable love.  He is faithful and he could do it!

As I was thinking about this I was reminded of a song:  “The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; His mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning, new every morning.  Great is thy faithfulness, O Lord.  Great is thy faithfulness, O Lord.  Great is thy faithfulness.”  The Bible sums it up quite well in Lamentations 3:21-23  “Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope; because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail.  They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” And also in Psalm 119:76a  “May your unfailing love be my comfort . . .”

Because God’s love never fails, there is always hope for all of us.  As a dear friend of mine says, LNF!

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  1. The past two years have been the most difficult of my life, as I’ve been dealing with a teen daughter with an anxiety disorder, depression, OCD and self-harm. She has been hospitalized 4 times this year because she was a danger to herself. It has become so very hard for me to relax or feel safe (for her). Even when things seem to be going smoothly, I find I’m waiting for the next crisis and it is difficult to really rest. I found your blog while searching for some kind of support group online, and I can’t tell you how much it has encouraged me. I’ve been praying all along and I believe you are one of God’s answers to me. Everything you have posted speaks to me and the things I struggle with. Thank you, thank you, thank you. God bless.
    M.

    • Thank you for your comment Melody. I am so sorry to hear about these trials with your daughter and I am so glad the Lord lead you to my blog! I completely understand how you feel. Like waiting for the other shoe to drop. Hospitalized 4x in a year, oh my, how hard for you! You are probably suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome, at least to some degree. You may want to do some research on this online and see what you think. Talking to a counselor could really help you process your emotions. If you need help finding a good one (especially if you’d like to find a Christian counselor) let me know and I may be able to direct you in this if you aren’t sure who to go to. It is a horrific nightmare no one can really understand except for those who have been through it. I strongly urge you to find a support group in your area. You desperately need to be with other parents who are also struggling like you are. It’s such a comfort to know we are not alone and can draw on each other’s strengths. Have you found anything like this? Again, I am so glad my blogs have helped you and encouraged you. You may also enjoy my daughter’s blog – your daughter might, too. Go to: reneeyohe.com

      • Melody, I almost forgot to tell you that I recently found a great website which offers online support groups! I have confidence in the mom who is behind it, Diane Viere. She also has a weekly live talk radio program and you can listen to their archived programs. They are quite good! Recently my boss at Campus Crusade for Christ, Judy Douglass, shared her story. Go to: partnersinprayerforourprodigals.com and check it out. There are many great resources there! You can post prayer requests and people will pray for you and for your daughter. Campus Crusade also has something similar that I help with called, Prayer for Prodigals. It is a great resource (prayers to pray, Bble verses, devotionals, books, websites and places for help all over the country). If you want to check this out send me an email and I will send you and email invitation. It is a confidential, protected site, for your privacy. Hope these things will help you on your journey.

  2. Thank you so much, Dena!
    I looked at partnersinprayerforprodigals and found just the message I needed for today. I will become a regular visitor there, as I am to your blog. I have been so busy with my daughter’s treatment and therapy that I have put my own needs aside. But I know it is time for me to find support and help as well. I do know of a very good Christian counseling organization in my area and will be calling them today. Again, bless you.

    • So glad you went and checked out that site and that you liked it! We need all the resources we can get, don’t we? Good for you on calling that counseling group! I applaud that step in taking care of yourself! It is so easy to overlook our own needs when our chlld’s are so all-consuming. Maybe they can help you find a support group, too! At least you might want to try out the online one through The Prodigal Hope Network (part of partners in prayer for our prodigals). I am going to participate in one hopefully this week! God bless you today as you continue on your journey!