THE PROBLEM OF ISOLATION AND THE POWER OF GROUPS
An all too common problem for hurting parents is isolation. Our guilt, shame and embarrassment cause us to withdraw. Because our tears are so close to the surface we don’t want to talk about our sons or daughters with others.
One of our core beliefs is that we were not created to live life alone, but in community. Life with all its joys and sorrows is to be experienced with others. Mutual encouragement and shared trials helps to lighten our load and increase our strength for the journey. This is where the power of support groups can help when the pain is that deep.
HOPE FOR HURTING PARENTS GROUP LOCATIONS
Sadly, there are only a few around the country. We are in the process of contacting the facilitators to ask permission to post their contact information. When that’s completed and new groups are started the list will be updated.
Active Groups by State and City
- Little Rock – Larry and Lynn Lindahl, firstname.lastname@example.org
- Erie – Val Bush, email@example.com (mom’s only)
- Lafayette – Val Bush, firstname.lastname@example.org
- Brookville – Bill and Ann Spratt, email@example.com
- Dunedin – Leslie King, firstname.lastname@example.org
- East – Tom and Dena Yohe, email@example.com
- East – Tim and Jada Smith, firstname.lastname@example.org
- Central – Nancy Grant, email@example.com
- The Villages -Ellen Pollock, firstname.lastname@example.org
- Winter Garden – Lisa Philippone, email@example.com (mom’s only)
- Atlanta – Fair and John Brocard, firstname.lastname@example.org
- Mankato – Beth Denhof, email@example.com
- Winona – Keith and Deanne Nelson, firstname.lastname@example.org
- North Platt – Gerard Flores, email@example.com and Casey Kurre, firstname.lastname@example.org
- Oklahoma City – Jon and Esther Rehbein, email@example.com
- Medford – Michele Ashpole, firstname.lastname@example.org
- Simpsonville – Brookwood Church, email@example.com
- Tea – Jan and Scott Jaacks, firstname.lastname@example.org
- Oak Harbor – Ann and Don Jaques, Dnajaques@comcast.net
If you are fortunate enough to be near one, please try it. If not, at least consider Celebrate Recovery, Al-Anon, Nar-Anon, NAMI Family to Family or start a group yourself.
START A GROUP
Do you long to be part of a group just for parents that covers a broad range of issues, while also allowing for your Christian perspective, scripture and prayer?
We’ve been facilitating this kind of group in our home for over eight years and it’s where Hope for Hurting Parents support groups began. When parents began asking about groups in their location and there weren’t any, we decided to write a manual to help them start one.
YOU AS A FACILITATOR
We’ve taken the emphasis off leading and placed it on facilitating. Your role is not as a teacher or instructor, rather, you’re simply a facilitator sharing content, asking a few open-ended questions, then guiding discussion. You aren’t expected to know everything or have your act together. We’re all fellow strugglers on the same heartbreaking path. Authenticity and a willingness to be vulnerable with your trials, is your best asset.
We recognize that what we do and how we do it – the frequency our group meets and where – may not fit every situation. Feel free to structure your group as you see best. Our goal is more support groups all over the country. There are so many in need, with so few resources.
It’s not our intention to create high content driven groups. Rather, the groups will be safe, confidential, loving communities for hurting parents to find the encouragement, resources, acceptance, comfort, and hope they need.
The goal is to give parents the opportunity to share honestly about their feelings with others who understand, won’t think less of them or give pat answers.
THE HOPE FOR HURTING PARENTS FACILITATOR MANUAL
A few of the 22 topics are: grief and loss, worry and anxiety, enabling, fear, communication and anger. You may use them in any order you choose. There’s enough material for a whole year if you met twice a month, once in November and December due to the holidays. You can determine how often you want to meet.
The entire manual is in PDF format. You can request a free sample that includes everything you need to get started plus one session on Grief and Loss. To request your FREE sample of our Facilitator Manual click the button and fill out the information. When you request your sample we will also give you directions if you decide to start a group and want our material.
WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING ABOUT HOPE FOR HURTING PARENTS SUPPORT GROUPS
“I really needed this tonight. Being with others who understand and don’t judge me is so freeing. My heart feels so much lighter. I really need the topic of detachment, too. I have a lot to work on, but now I feel I can do it.”
“I really appreciated the topic being printed and handed out. I had something tangible I could hang on to and look at again and again during times of crisis, offering scripture and hope. Most of all the group supported me with their prayers, which helped me to regain my focus on God’s strength instead of my own. I now realize my son’s situation is not hopeless.”
“We cannot thank you enough for your ministry. Over the past year, as we worked through the various stages of facing our son’s choices, you have been there alongside us. Your ministry and group have been a real safe haven for us to catch our breaths.”
“The content is very rich and filled with wisdom. We have all felt that the material is very insightful and useful for us in our journey. There are many times we have shared how ‘right on’ the material is in helping us navigate this uncharted territory.”
The topics are so relevant in your manual. I think every parent experiencing these types of situations can relate to the topics at some point in their journey with their adult child. Leading a Hope for Hurting Parents group is very meaningful to me. God keeps leading me to others who are hurting. God used my situation to give me more compassion and encourage others in similar situations.”
One woman in my group commented, ‘Everyone needs a group like Hope for Hurting Parents.’ She is right. I have talked to women in other states and other parts of Florida who have never heard it and are interested in having one. There is a need for groups like these to love, support, pray, and encourage one another through our struggles.”
“A Hope for Hurting Parents group provides immeasurable support, guidance, hope, and care to those who attend. I have watched and witnessed the profound affect a Hope for Hurting Parents group provides to the hurting parents of our church community. Berry Johnston – Pastor C.A.R.E. Ministries Discovery Church, Orlando, FL
“I have had the privilege of getting to know Tom and Dena Yohe, and their ministry, Hope for Hurting Parents. The Yohes have a tremendous testimony and are faithful witnesses to the healing power of Christ. We at New Covenant United Methodist Church have two Hope for Hurting Parents groups now, and we seek their wise counsel and advice as we move through this process. I cannot think of better representatives for the Kingdom than the Yohes that we can journey alongside.” Ellen Pollock – Associate Director – Care Ministries, New Covenant United Methodist Church, The Villages, FL
“Tom and Dena Yohe have lived through the ups and downs, and the hurts and joys of life with a prodigal. All they have learned is now helping so many others through their wonderful ministry Hope for Hurting Parents. They not only have wise encouragement, but also powerful prayers.” Judy Douglass – Writer, Encourager, Founder of Prayer for Prodigals, Cru
“The beauty of what happens in a Hope for Hurting Parents support group has been so inspiring to us at Village View Church. The group is a safe place for participants to take their hurt, let it out, then leave with the hope they need to make it through another day with the strength of Jesus Christ guiding every step.” Deb Williams – Former Staff of Recovery and Support Ministries, Village View Community Church, Summerfield, FL
“I would like to recommend Tom and Dena Yohe’s ministry, Hope for Hurting Parents. In the words of one of the parents attending the group, “I love these two people. They have helped me so much to understand my role as a parent. I felt like I was really helped. It really is important that I attend the sessions'” Pastor Marty Shea – Senior Pastor, Village View Community Church, Summerfield, FL
“As a parent of two sons who struggle with mental health concerns, I personally know the value of a caring, knowledgeable support network. This group provides that and more. The discussions are open and honest; the information shared is practical and understandable; the relationships formed are invaluable. I highly recommend the group to my clients who are parents seeking to love their child well in the difficult times.” Mike Wilcox – M.A., M.A., Licensed Mental Health Counselor
“Tom and Dena are passionate and devoted to their cause and can personally identify with parents that have struggled raising and dealing with difficult children. They also help those families with adult children that are still problematic as well. I love what they are doing and want to continue to see their ministry grown so they can help as many families possible that are hurting.” Debbie Haughton – Licensed Mental Health Counselor
“No one should suffer alone. This support group was designed to come alongside of hurting parents. It is SAFE and parents can come with their authentic selves to receive love and support without judgement. I know of no other group like it. I personally have felt buoyed up and prayed for during some of my most difficult parenting days and continue to find those who supported me a continued support today. It is a gift to carry one another’s burdens and share in their pain side by side. It is an experience of Jesus being present to heal the brokenhearted.” Nancy A. Johnson – EdD, LMHC
“These support groups provide a safe place to feel, share and encourage one another as hurting parents who are on a journey through parenting challenges with adolescent or adult children. Thegroups are warm, intimate and confidential. The facilitators guide parents, with hope, through their many resources. I often refer hurting parents to HHP as it is a crucial piece of the healing process. I’m excited to see this group multiply and bless others!” Tanya Alvarado – MA, LMHC