This is my last post for National Suicide Prevention Month. The special focus is ended, but the need for #encouragement and #support goes on. #Parents who’ve been crushed by the weight of their child’s death by #suicide need huge amounts of ongoing comfort.
Today’s blog is what I would want someone to say to me if my daughter ever takes her life. I’ve come close to losing her numerous times.
Renee, now 29, has battled with #addiction, mental health issues, and suicidal thoughts since she was a teenager. Thank God she’s still alive – only by His grace.
But many other parents – thousands upon thousands all over the world – are not so fortunate. I’m dear friends with some of them.
This is my heartfelt letter to you:
Your child’s suicide wasn’t your fault.
Today’s blog was written by Beth Saadati. I first shared it last May. Since September is Suicide Awareness month and I’m focusing on this topic all month, I felt impressed to share it again. The message is powerful and is for anyone, not just parents.
“Given the opportunity, Jenna wouldn’t make the same choice again. But she also wouldn’t want her death to be in vain. She would want us to learn from it so we can live as overcomers. As victors. Her letter and writings are a rare gift.” -Dr. David Cox, counselor
A 14 year-old daughter’s suicide note? A gift? My thoughts reeled the day after Jenna’s death as a few close friends, my husband, and I braced ourselves for the reading of the three-page letter police had discovered on her thumb drive.
In shock, I heard the false accusations that had snaked their way into Jenna’s mind. Since then, I’ve reread the letter a hundred times and silently answered seven of its lies.
Dear Family and Extended Family,
I’m really sorry for leaving you like this. Honestly I am. During the last few months of my life I was incredibly depressed. You just didn’t notice since I put up a good front most of the time.
This is for any parent whose son or daughter struggles with suicidal thoughts or fantasies. Do they struggle with bipolar, depression, PTSD, or schizophrenia? Are you tormented not knowing if they’re safe or not – from themselves? Do you have an uneasy feeling that something is wrong but can’t put your finger on it? Do you worry they feel worthless and believe their life doesn’t matter? If so, this is especially for you. The information contained here could be crucial for your child.
This content is from The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline website.
The following behaviors may mean someone is at risk for ending their life. The risk of suicide is greater if a behavior is new or has increased, or if it seems related to a painful event, loss, or change.
If your child exhibits any of these signs, seek help as soon as possible by calling the Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). A trained individual will take your call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, including holidays.
These are the warning signs to watch for: