Loving a Prodigal

Is Everything Out of Control?

Welcome today’s guest blogger, my dear friend and mom of a former prodigal, Judy Douglass. She writes from years of experience, a heart of compassion and much wisdom.

“Does everything seem out of control?

Sometimes life, or family situations, or financial needs seem overwhelming. We feel out of control. We can’t help or stop or change things. We can’t control them.

It is good when we recognize this, for then we will hopefully turn to El Elyon, the Most High God.

The literal meaning is “God is the high one.” Synonyms would be sovereign and ruler. In other words, He is in control.

This name of God appears throughout the Old Testament, but most often in the book of Daniel. Here we read the story of Nebuchadnezzar, the mighty ruler of the Babylonian empire.

Though he acknowledged the power of Daniel’s God, he still believed he was in control. Thus God’s word to him: “You will be driven away from people and will live with wild animals…Seven times will pass by for you until you acknowledge the Most High is sovereign over the kingdoms of men…”

And that is what happened. After seven years of living as an animal, the King looked to heaven and was restored. He said, “Now I, Nebuchadnezzar, praise and exalt and glorify the King of heaven, because everything he does is right and all his ways are just…”

Where is your life out of control?

A child on drugs? Lost a job? A pregnant daughter? In foreclosure? A son in jail? A cancer diagnosis? Or just myriad small details adding up to one big mess?

How to Keep Your Sanity When You’re Child’s Making You Feel Like You’re Losing It

4 Things You Can Do

Today was a beautiful day for a bike ride. My husband attached our new bike rack to the car and we were off with some friends for a relaxing morning. The flat, shady trail was perfect. As our tires rolled over the paved path, birds sang and the sun shone warm on our backs. Gentle breezes and mild temperatures mixed together for the perfect outing.

I’m not the racing type. I prefer a leisurely, relaxed pace. It’s more refreshing for me that way. While I rode along today, I recalled how it felt (not too long ago) when I thought I would lose my mind over my troubled daughter’s behaviors and choices; when it felt like she was making me lose my sanity.

“Okay, our children don’t make us lose our sanity, but they make us feel like we could.

4 Reasons Not to Give Up On Your Troubled Kids

When You Want to Quit

“I give up. I can’t do this. It’s too hard. I’m not strong enough for the job. It’s beyond my capacity. I need help.” This was how I felt about the lady finger palms growing behind our screened in patio. They had to go. They were causing big problems. But they’re roots were too strong and too deep for me to manage on my own. I did my best. I tried hard, so did my husband, but we couldn’t do it.

The harder we tried, the more aggravated and frustrated we became. Ugh.

To be honest, there have been times I’ve felt this way about my daughter. You may have, too. Maybe today you’ve almost reached your give-up point.

It feels terrible to come to that place about your own son or daughter. But sometimes it’s hard not to despair. You fill in the blank with your child’s issue(s)____________. The list might be long. No one wants to quit on their own flesh and blood.

Why shouldn’t we give up? These are the 4 reasons my husband and I chose not to:

A Lesson from Aspen Trees

Parents With Broken Hearts Need Each Other

Aspen trees. 2020 site

I write to hurting, brokenhearted parents; parents whose dreams for their children have dried up and blown away in the wind. These moms and dads have experienced many of their worst nightmares, things they never imagined would happen – not to them; not to their child. Is that you? You felt like you lost your mind, your sense of well-being and your ability to hope. Filled with guilt and shame, you didn’t want anyone to know – not everything. No way. So you got pretty good at keeping secrets and staying to yourself. And it’s killing you.

My husband and I were in Colorado last month. We did a little sight-seeing one day and I had a fresh insight from something I saw that made me think of you – because I am one of you. I’ve been right where you are.

A New Year’s Gift for Hurting Parents

A Special Word for You from a Mom Who Understands

Being the parent of a troubled son or daughter who has a history of making awful choices, who struggles with an addiction, a mental illness or with their sexual orientation, is life-changing. When their world looks like it’s on a downward path to destruction, yours feels like it is, too. Today is New Year’s Day. As many of your friends are setting goals for 2017, thinking about what they want to see happen, you just want your child to live, to be restored to you and your family. It’s difficult and scary for you to look ahead. I’ve tried not to look too far ahead – where my daughter is concerned – for a long time. 12 years. If you can relate, then I have a special word for you.
God is there. With you. The living God. In your pain. In the chaos. In the nightmare.
On your bad days, on the I-can’t-believe-this-is-my-life days, can you see his face?