Part 7 of Mental Illness Series – Helping Parents Understand Borderline Personality Disorder

This is the last in a series of seven posts on the major mental illnesses, also called brain disorders. As a parent who once knew nothing about these things hopeinhandbefore my daughter, now twenty-six, was diagnosed with several brain disorders, I began to gather information to help both myself and others who are on a similar difficult journey. May month is Mental Health Awareness Month, therefore my blogs have focused on these issues. I have addressed Bipolar Disorder, Major Depression, Anxiety Disorder, Panic Disorder, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and Schizophrenia. You can access these posts here on my blog page.  Today’s  topic is Borderline Personality Disorder. I hope it will be helpful to you. I am not an expert so I turn to the best in the field, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, On their website you will find many additional articles on each of these disorders and much more.

How Can You Get Your Child to Accept Help for Bipolar or Schizophrenia?

This is a great opportunity if you have a loved one who is bipolar or has schizophrenia.  Dr. Xavier Amador – clinical psychologist, Columbia anxietyUniversity professor, internationally sought-after speaker, and author of I am Not Sick I Don’t Need Help, will be on NAMI’s  “Ask the Doctor” monthly call with host Ken Duckworth, M.D.

This call will be tomorrow, Friday, May 24th from 11:00 am until 12:00 pm EST.

You will be able to ask him questions. He will be talking about Anosognosia. Anosognosia is the inability to perceive that one is ill due to impairment to the brain’s ability to see oneself accurately. It has been identified as the single biggest reason why more than 50 percent of people living with schizophrenia and bipolar disorder refuse treatment, and when they do accept it, often stop after days or months have gone by.

To access this call, dial 1 (888) 858-6021 and press pass code 309918#

Don’t forget to bring your questions for Dr. Amador! The doctor has personal understanding of this situation because he himself had a brother who lived with Schizophrenia for many years. As a result, Dr. Amador developed a method that has had great success in helping individuals accept the treatment they need. He explains it in his book mentioned above. It’s called the LEAP method. This method is so successful it is being used by both mental health and law enforcement professionals, as well as family members.

Listen – Empathize – Agree – Partner

Check out the Leap Institute website to learn more about this very effective strategy to help your loved one.  Dr. Amador is also president of the LEAP Institute.

Dr. Amador says, “I never won on the strength of my argument, I won on the strength of my relationship.”

Oklahoma’s Tornado and Devastated Parents

tornadoLate yesterday afternoon I sat spell-bound as I watched the weather channel broadcast live video of a massive, horrific tornado head toward the populated city of Moore, Oklahoma. Later in the evening the weather channel showed the aftermath. Unimaginable suffering. Today my mind is still reeling as I try to imagine how the residents of Moore  must be feeling. Especially the parents. And then it hit me – the emotions those parents are feeling is the same as what parents feel whose children suffer with addictions, brain disorders (mental illness), self-injury (cutting and eating disorders), sexual identity issues (same-sex attraction, pornography, sex addictions, etc.), and other devastating problems.

In Moore, the devastation and destruction headed their way yesterday was unthinkable. Tragedy was racing toward their town, their home, their loved ones – but they were powerless to stop it. Life was about to be changed forever. No one could have imagined what was going to happen. Parents who were farther away couldn’t reach the school in time to whisk their children away from the tornado’s deadly path to safety. They could only wait and pray – in agony.

In the same way, many parents like you and me have also endured unthinkable, tragic experiences with our children.

Six Tips When Mother’s Day Hurts

Have you been dreading Mother’s Day this year? Do you wish it would just go away? I’ve been thinking a lot about hurting moms lately, especially with this holiday in two days. It’s not a day many moms look forward to. It only brings pain. Sadness. Heartache. When your relationship is strained or non-existent you’d rather skip that day. You know you probably won’t hear from them, much less get a card. You won’t see their smiling face to greet you with affection, hand-made cards or thoughtful gifts.They’re too self-focused and oblivious for such loving gestures. They may not even know it’s Mother’s Day. Clueless.
Where does that leave you? Set up for a lot of hurt and pain, anger and resentment.
crying_eyeThese are times when I tend to long for the past. I linger over the positive memories from when my daughter was little and wanted to cuddle in my lap. I remember when I was her hero. Can you even remember that time?
But those days are over. That’s in the past and we can’t get it back again. We’re in a new place on our mothering journey. A place of grief and loss, tears and sadness. A place of shattered dreams and unfulfilled hopes – of letting go. A place of change. Hurts have been inflicted. Deep pain and rejection have become the norm. How did we get here – to this place of dreading Mother’s Day, a day that once was special, full of love and laughter?

Part 5 – What Parents Need to Know about Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. It seems fitting that I get back to my series on Mental Illness. This is Part 5 of a 6 Part Series. Have you hope in the stormnoticed your child experiencing anxiety over obsessive thoughts or compulsive behaviors that are causing them problems with normal, daily functioning? They may have Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). If you have wondered exactly what that is, this post will give you the information you have been looking for. My source is The National Alliance on Mental Illness ( They have many other excellent articles on this topic you could read to do more research.